Friday, 30 May 2014

Anyone else fed up?

"I'm fed up" I said with teary eyes to my psychologist.

"Well, yes, you do look quite fed up" came the reply.

Then he asked me if it was okay to feel so fed up, given all my symptoms and I agreed it was.

Sometimes you just need to say things are getting you down, tell somebody and have them say back to you that it isn't wrong, that it's understandable.

Do you need to tell somebody you feel fed up, just to get a mental high five from somebody?

I still feel fed up, but sharing it has helped and I feel 1% less fed up, and for now, a 1% reduction is a mountain climbed.

What about reaching out to a moodscope buddy or a friend? Maybe even your GP or a medical professional? Why not give it a try, it may just help.

Have a lovely day.

Jules
A Moodscope member.

21 comments:

  1. KISS - Keep It Short (and) Simple. Feel like I've had a kiss from you today Jules.
    Eloquent, emotive, effective.
    High Five.
    L'x

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    1. Morning Lex :)
      High five backatcha! X

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    2. KISS is a new one on me! Will be using that one I think, thank you Lex :-) Love from the room above the garage.

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  2. I'm fed up. And exhausted. And I'm trying to tell myself that that's ok. I have to sell the house. I have to make the most of the market for a number of reasons, which means my house has to be ready in three weeks. I'm finding it really difficult to accept that it's normal to be fed up and understandable to be exhausted. It just never seems to end.

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    1. Oh POOR POOR YOU Victoria. Truly exhausting / dispiriting...
      Try the 'three box ' tecnique. BOX 1 KEEP
      BOX 2 'NON SURE ' !
      BOX 3 CHUCK ..... RETURN to the ' NON SURE ' box to re-assess.

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    2. Thanks Anonymous. My husband and I only finally agreed to divorce last month and because we were half through renovating it's not in a good state. I'm lucky that the market is buoyant so that I can sell a house in that condition, but selling it unfinished makes me feel awful and obviously I'm now doing it without husband to help. I remain grateful to be in a position to sell and hopefully not lose money but it's daunting to not only have to do normal clearance of stuff, but divorce sharing of stuff at the same time. I really appreciated your comment. I think I'll add a fourth box of "it's ok if you're not up to making a decision now". Depression and fibromyalgia do not make for an easy packing process!

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    3. Hi Victoria! sounds like u r trying ur best in the circumstances. I suffer with fibromyalgia too and its hard with depression to get on with tasks isnt it. I hope u will b able to move forward and can remain strong once sale of ur house goes through. Steph

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  3. Thanks for that Jules. Yes, I am fed up and I've just checked with myself to see if I've got good reason(s), and I have. Feel better already, not so guilty. Good luck with the house sale Victoria.

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  4. Hi Jules, you're brilliant. Yup. I'm fed up, too. And feeling sorry for myself as well. I have a chronic autoimmune disease, depression, and don't even own a house to sell. Usually, I feel grateful and blessed but today I am superbly fed up. But 10% less so as of now. Thanks so much. Xx

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  5. You have to be fed up to understand 'not fed up'! Claire Weekes on her CD's says words to the effect of not fighting it and running away and to 'let it come - let it go' in a wonderfully strident voice. So for those who want to feed that all their feelings are normal get a copy. V.cheap online.

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  6. I like this thank you Jules!
    I am fed up. Didn't actually realise it until I read this today. It's a good thing because I realise I've tripped up and, for once, hadn't noticed, or I've noticed earlier than normal, which is also good. The problem I have is I feel I have no good, solid, decent reason to be fed up and so go through life pretending. Does anyone else feel they rewind and play 'catch22' persistently? From a post, Les inspired me to do something a few weeks ago and I start it today. I'm terrified and I could happily not go. But I'm going. If I still feel fed up afterward then I need to put a strategy into action. I'm blabbering!! Thanks for listening. Or reading. High fiving the FedUps :-) Love from the room above the garage.

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  7. Isn't the weather enough !

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  8. I just tried to write quite a detailed comment in here and when I went to publish it I must have clicked on the wrong icon and lost it.
    Now I feel a bit fed up.
    Anyway, the gist of it was that I thought the blog contained a clear and simple truth, thanks Jules :-) They're the kind we need to hear sometimes, rather than thinking about all the variables and making things too complicated for ourselves.
    The other thing I wanted to mention was that I find it really hard to put this into action because of the misguided need to present myself as having things under control or at least, not moaning or being a burden to someone.
    I hate the idea of someone thinking 'here we go again, I find this person really irritating' or 'what has this person got to moan about, they're so ungrateful'.
    Some people seem to be unaware of other's reactions but I feel hyper aware of any signs of boredom or irritation in others.
    Last year I was diagnosed with Autistic Spectrum Disorder (or Aspergers) and have had a struggle accepting this as I feel like I am very socially able and don't have many of the other symptoms. The doctor who diagnoses me is really nice though and is something of a specialist in the field so that gives me some confidence. She thinks I may have masked any lack of social awareness by watching and learning from others intently as I grew up. I do wonder if that may have contributed to my feelings of hyper-awareness the reactions of those around me and whether a sort of fear of whether I am acting in 'the right way socially' is fuelling the process. I sometimes find myself looking/staring at others to see if I am missing some social information that might betray their feelings. Feelings that I might have missed when they were in conversation with me or might help me in future conversation.
    Anyway, I think I've pretty much written the original comment out again. It was a bit of a indulgent and convoluted response to a clear and helpful blog. I find commenting on these blogs a helpful process in understanding myself so I hope other users will excuse the indulgence in myself.
    I would be interested to know if anyone else has had a diagnosis of 'Autistic Spectrum Disorder' and has struggled to identify it with their image of themselves? Perhaps this might be a good subject for a blog?

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    1. I too stare at people to see if i am socially with it. I feel inadequate socially. I prefer to be home. I have a hard time also 'reading' people. I am gullible, nieve.

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    2. Thanks for the reply. I was hoping other people might identify with what I shared.
      One thing that has helped since my diagnosis is the concept that I am not doing things wrong nessessarily. I just see the world in a different way to the majority and I don't have to change myself. It may be harder to fit in but it also gives me lots of qualities that can be a force for good.
      In your case, you say you are gullible and nieve but another way of looking at it is that you are trusting and haven't lost faith in others. We use words like gullible and nieve to explain how people don't fit in to our world but we should be trying to change the world rather than those that don't fit in.
      I'm not trying to imply that you may also have Aspergers by the way, I just read your comment and felt sad for you that you felt that way.
      I hope you are also able to see the good qualities you have.

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  9. I feel fed up at the moment. Work issues are getting on top of me.

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  10. I too feel atleast 1% relieved now

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  11. I am really fed up today too. Life in general has finally become too heavy and I just wanted to stay in bed. But I did get up and go to my counseling session. i t made me cry. Good or bad, not sure as I am not one to cry much. Reading your post made me feel that it IS OK to feel fed up and it is nice to think that by replying to your post I am getting some affirmation of my existence and my right to be fed up. Thank you.

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  12. Thank you Jules for your brilliant post. I am fed up since some months with chronic ocd,depression,anxiety.No more counseling I feel life is just too hard to go through this agony day by day,I am worn out.What´s the point? God bless Jules!

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  13. Sorry to hear - " 5.37 p.m. " KEEP TRUCKIN ' ! All is not lost; have offered up a prayer for you.

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  14. Thanks for the lovely comments, huge high five to you all for feeling fed up and carrying on anyway. Hope tomorrow brings some sunshine to you all :)

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