"Deep listening from the heart is one half of true communication. Speaking from the heart is the other half." Sara Paddison, Hidden Power of the Heart.
Ever wonder why we shout when we are angry?
This story is one of the best explanations I've come across. Enjoy!
A Hindu saint who was visiting the river Ganges to take a bath, found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other.
He turned to his disciples, smiled and asked, "Why do people shout in anger at each other?"
His disciples thought for a while and one of them said, "Because when we lose our calm we shout."
"But why should you shout when the other person is just next to you?" asked the saint. "Can't you just as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner?"
When some of the answers did not satisfy the others, the saint finally explained, "When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance."
"What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small."
The saint continued, "When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other."
He looked at his disciples and said, "So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant. Do not say words that distance each other more, or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return."
Who did you last raise your voice to?
Who needs to 'hear' your heart again, not your voice?
As our hearts separate - our voices rise according to the exact distance we move apart!
"An open ear is the only believable sign of an open heart." David Augsburger.
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