Monday, 1 April 2013

Someone to listen.

Things don't always go as you'd wish. Life's like that. But when they don't, it can help to talk about them. The very act of speaking about your feelings can help you process them. It can help you rationalise your situation and solve your problems.

Generally we know this. Unfortunately, who you talk to plays a big part in the outcome of this process. Tell the right person and you'll walk away from the conversation with shoulders raised and spirits lifted. Tell the wrong person, however, and you could feel worse than you did before you began.

One key to success is to identify someone with that pretty rare combination of patience, good listening skills, and the ability to be relatively non-judgemental (yet, of course, not so bland that they have none of their own opinions). Few have these talents, all too many will instead be eager to dictate what you should do. Ask them, and they'll tell you in no uncertain terms. Better perhaps to hold your breath until you're with that special person who lets you talk, while they simply listen. You know who they are, so cherish them, and hang onto them because they're worth their weight in gold.