I wonder what you'll learn today that you didn't know yesterday?
When you were at school, it was all part of the process that you'd sit through lessons all day, then when the bell rang you'd go home with more in your head than you'd started with.
Much as excellent teachers like to speak of lighting fires rather than filling buckets, I'm sure there's still a great deal of the latter in today's classrooms.
I imagine most of us still go to bed with more in our head than was there in the morning, but unfortunately much of this can be stress, noise and aggro - a great name for a firm of lawyers handling environmental distress cases perhaps, but no way in which to retire for a relaxed night's sleep.
Perhaps there's a different way of looking at this, though? Maybe instead of trying to turn a blind eye to these unwanted thoughts, it can be possible to ask yourself what, if anything, they've taught you? Even if this is something so seemingly obvious, for example, as 'I don't like it when other people make unreasonable demands of me'.
Then again the day might not have been all bad, providing you with a different sort of learning opportunity - the chance to ask yourself why, perhaps, you felt positively about something good that happened. 'I like it when I make myself a hot drink and sit calmly in silence for ten minutes.'
There's nothing wrong with learning for learning's sake, in fact it can be a pleasure in its own right. But learning about yourself... well, that's learning for life's sake isn't it?
I think you have no idea how much these emails are appreciated. I'm sure I'm not the only one. You have a way of writing which is never patronizing, gets to the point, is entertaining to read and is always, always non-assumptive yet somehow makes the reader feel you've been there too. Hope this sounds like its meant to - highly appreciative rather than sycophantic. Thank you very much for what you do :)
ReplyDeleteDitto to the above post. Although I'm not feeling at my best, the daily emails are a great start to the day. Always give food for thought and are very much appreciated. Many thanks and keep up the good work.
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Agreed..great stuff again Jon. I particularly like your suggestion that we look at our negative thoughts which are stopping us from going to sleep and try to see how we can learn from them.
ReplyDeleteYes, thank you.
ReplyDeleteThis was really thought provoking for me. I couldn't sleep the other night because of a work situation. Reframing what was happening in my head this morning having read this I see how I might have thought about the situation differently.
ReplyDeleteThis is a really interesting post. I suffer from anxiety and a while ago I was writing down my worries everyday for one month as part of an excercise. Looking back sometime later to what I had written, I couldn't even remember some of the incidents at all, even the ones I had obviously been worried would have really bad consequences. It made me realise that my problem is excessive worrying, not the 'problems' I believe I am worrying about.
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