Businesses know they must maintain the systems and equipment they have in case of emergency. Fire extinguishers should be checked and topped up. Security alarms must be tested on a regular basis. Staff need to participate in fire drills to ensure that everyone knows how to evacuate safely and quickly.
I definitely don't want to make you feel guilty, but I wonder if there's perhaps someone in your life that you take a bit for granted? You know, I think we can all do this at times.
Maybe there's a friend you hope you'd be able to rely on in a crisis? Or a member of your family who you're certain would be there for you if it all turned to custard?
People like this are important all the time, but specially so if the going gets tough, so I'm certain it makes sense to nurture your relationships with them. It's not just in case you need help, of course, but it's certainly a consideration.
What's more, if you rely on them, they probably depend on you too - so a spot of two-way maintenance never goes amiss.
An email or phone call can be a good start, but there's no substitute for meeting (and connecting) face to face if you can.
How about it?
It's such an effort to connect face to face sometimes! Or rather, I don't feel I have much to offer in the way of good conversation right now. I can feel better after an encounter but am not sure if the other person does! So complicated and not so simple as it sounds or is for people who do not have depression.
ReplyDeletePeople who are not depressed just go about their lives without having to think I must make the effort to connect face to face with more people.
I know how you feel Julia but there are lots of people who actually like being asked for help. I know I do. Perhaps that help can be sitting with you for an hour over coffee to hear about how you are feeling (with the promise that you would do the same for them when you are feeling better). Also, relationships that go beyond the normal, social pleasantries can be rich and fulfilling even if that sometimes means literally crying on someone's shoulder.
DeleteHi Julia, it's Diana again. I am having an opportunity to join a class in a self-help group. I don't think it matters too much
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writing, or photography etc.
Mine is in fact 'Pilates' - as I need supervised back exersices, being almost past- my sell-by date !
I guess the 1st lesson could be challenging - however, after that things could get easier....? Well, will have a try anyway. This way one doesn't need to be 'confronted' by someone as such.
Yes I agree that a class is a good way of being with others but not necessarily having to engage one to one. I have come away from a class such as Pilates feeling quite sociable and cheery even though I have only exchanged pleasantries with others. Thank you for reminding me of this Diane and all the best with your first class.
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