Saturday, 29 December 2012


Infuriating isn't it? Let's say you're feeling decidedly below par. Hopefully it's not the case right now but it does - you know - happen to the best of us now and then.

So you're going through a rough time, and you know quite incontrovertibly that if you could only just take a positive approach to things, you might be able to edge yourself back on track. You know this. But you know this in theory. The chances of actually being able to think anything other than negatively at a time like this are, frankly, remote. On a par with winning the lottery.

So what the heck do you do?

Well let's imagine a scale which has Very Negative on the left and Very Positive on the right, and let's add a Fairly Negative and Slightly Negative to the right of Very Negative, and a Slightly Positive and Fairly Positive to the left of Very Positive.

Then I think we're entitled to add one more position on the scale: there's no reason at all why we shouldn't place this slap bang in the middle - right there between the Slightly Negative and the Slightly Positive, and we might choose to label this with Neutral.

So where has this piece of mental origami taken us? I reckon it suggests that when taking a positive approach is out of the question, it may be more realistic to see if we can actually adopt a neutral way of viewing things.

An example? Certainly. Let's imagine you've been invited to a party when you're feeling pretty gloomy. The (most likely) negative viewpoint is to believe you'll have an awful time if you accept, while the (unlikely) positive is to predict that you'll really enjoy it. To some extent these are both extreme views, though, and the truth is that you can't actually know how much or not of a good time you'll have.

You might still not really want to go to the party, but at least you'll keep an open mind if you do.

Next time you're faced with a situation that seems to depend on you either taking the positive road or the negative one, why not add a third direction?

The neutral approach may just be a more realistic one.