Monday, 24 April 2017

A Manifesto for a Life to the Full.

Movement, nutrition, reproduction, excretion, growth, respiration, sensitivity are the seven characteristics of a Living Organism. Using these seven characteristics, you can accelerate your journey towards more of a life of abundance in seven straightforward steps:

1. Make sure you're moving towards a specific and motivating destination. Have a compelling vision of the future that gives you hope and that has milestones that can be measured.

2. Be conscious of the nutritional choices you make. Is your soul-food as good as the decisions you make about eating healthy natural food? Where do you get your energy from? How could you get more energy? Do you have any energy-vampires that need to be excluded from your life? How about any mood-hoovers that you could switch off?

3. What are your unique gifts and talents that would benefit being installed in others? How could you reproduce these skills and abilities in others? What can you teach? Who wants to be taught it?

4. How good are you at dealing with the excretion of set-backs, waste, and disappointment? How could you become more resilient? What did you learn from your last set-back?

5. In which ways are you growing the most? In which areas would you like to grow the most? What's the first physical action step to get you on the path to growth? What stunts your growth?

6. Do you think you have achieved a good balance of give-and-take, of giving-and-receiving? This is respiration in Nature, and an important part of feeling truly alive. You must find a purpose to give yourself too, but you must also find the flow of resources to keep you being able to give.

7/ On a scale of 1-100, how sensitive would you rate yourself as when it comes to understanding yourself? How would you rate your understanding of others?

Improving the momentum of your movement towards what you want, increasing the energy you get into your life though the right 'nutrition', reproducing more of your excellence in your team, family, and community, learning to deal rapidly and effectively with set-backs, growing more sustainably and rapidly, taking your giving and receiving up a level, and becoming more accurately and acutely sensitive to yourself, those around you, and your environment - all these add up to living life more abundantly.

Lex
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Sunday, 23 April 2017

Gardeners World.

This time of year we have buds and the start of new beginnings, but like with most gardens, some work can be done in order to make space for the buds, the blossoms and new shoots.

Tend to your own internal garden. Weed out the unwanted old thoughts that hinder new growth.

Prune and revive the hardy areas that survive even in the harshest winters.

Plant new hopeful seeds of learning that can bare fruitful new ideas.

Nourish and replenish the soul-soil so that your blossoms bloom from within because the Spring in happiness begins from the inside...

It's nobody else's job but yours.

The trusty-yogi
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Saturday, 22 April 2017

Is your job worthwhile?

Many years ago when my children were school aged, I worked with children with disabilities at their school. People would often comment how patient I was, how they admired me for doing something worthwhile. I used to say that I was no saint. I did feel good that I was doing a job that was valued by others and seen as being worthwhile.

Ask people what they want in a job, and meaningfulness is often ranked  their number one priority — above promotions, income, job security, and hours.

Many people feel their jobs don't matter and don't have a lasting impact on others.
According to surveys, there are jobs that are highly meaningful to virtually anyone who holds them: eg. kindergarten teachers, surgeons, firefighters, ambulance workers, midwives, adult literacy teachers.

They all make an important difference in the lives of others. They hold a purpose for the people doing the jobs and for everyone else who admires what they do.

Fast forward to the last eleven years where I own and manage a book and gift store. I tell myself I am helping people with their reading, helping customers to buy quirky presents  but in reality in this consumer obsessed society I am asking to people to buy more things they want but don't need.

I used to feel a bit embarrassed when I told people what I did.

One day a friend told me she felt I was wonderful for running a small business when I had a mental illness and I would encourage and offer hope to other people.

Often the chance to help others can be what makes our work worthwhile. I had never viewed my work as encouraging others and offering hope.

I think if I see a value and a purpose in what I do, others will too.

What about you, do you value what you do whether paid or unpaid?

Do you look to others to find worth in what you do? Why?

Is it important that others see your work as being worthwhile? Why?

Does having a job that helps others seem more meaningful to you?

Leah 
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Friday, 21 April 2017

That Moment.

There's that moment, that split second, literally.

Split between one choice or the other. Act or don't act.

You know which the better choice for you is.
Don't press send. Don't make that call.
Don't react.
Don't put it into your shopping basket. Don't have that drink.
Don't eat that junk, but you make a choice.

To hell with it, boom, done. Too late now I've done it. Felt good. I "needed" that....Really?

It seems there's something about a "don't" that makes it hard to resist doing!

Of course I know that everything is not so simple!

At times though, you're there, suspended for a moment and it's possible to get in there.
You haven't done it yet. You haven't ruined anything, you still have a chance. You can still make the better choice. You don't HAVE to give in and do it.

Sometimes I say
"I can..." to myself instead of a "Don't...".

A simple example is hoarding. I've been in the habit of keeping even the smallest things, even if I have loads, because they're perfectly good. Saying "I can actually get rid of that!" leads to immediate positive action and is much more effective than "Don't keep that" or "I don't need to keep that. Which just throws up questions and excuses!

When I make a choice that is good for me, wow! Does that feel great! I feel lifted, self respected. I CAN change the course of things sometimes, if I get in there and press pause.
If I listened to my true self each time, which would I choose?

Last night I switched the movie off and went to bed. Sounds small, but it felt like a first.

Have you found yourself in that moment and surprised yourself? Or maybe not yet?

LillyPet
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Thursday, 20 April 2017

Hello gorgeous.

He made it through.

He has shivered in the cold. He has been battered by harsh winds. He has held my gaze throughout and told me we were in it together.

This winter has been more gentle on me than any before and, although I have had a few harsh bumps lately, I have been rewarded by knowing it has been different. I'd hate to add up how many years depression has been snapping at me but I take great inspiration from small changes. The possibility brings possibility!

My beautiful friend the tree who never moves from my side, and often sits with me as I eat breakfast, is growing again. Spring has winked at him. He is putting on tiny undergarments of green. He remains a very large half a tree, having only grown on one side, but each year he develops a little more and I wonder if one day his half-ness will be unrecognisable?

He's back. And his courage, his strength, his solidity, his beauty and his charm has won me over all over again. I swoon into his shadow and I bat my eyelashes as cartoon love hearts pour from my eyes towards him. Ah he is my prince!

Love from

The room above the garage with a beating heart.
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Wednesday, 19 April 2017

Alternative Reality.

Imaginary Friend.

My imaginary friend
has an imaginary friend
whose imaginary friend
isn't real.

That imaginary friend
has an imaginary friend
whose imaginary friend
is me.

Suzanne Elvidge 1997

"You realise, Mummy," said my elder daughter, in scathing tones, "there comes an age at which most people grow out of having imaginary friends. That age is about eight."

My second daughter would never say that; my second daughter understands.

It sometimes seems as if there are two definite sides of our family, with a deep chasm between us. On one side my husband and elder daughter, on the other side, my younger daughter and me. They are doers, achievers, organisers and "people-people". My second daughter and I are the dreamers.

It's rare we take time to talk. Even when my husband and number one are away sailing and it is just she and I alone, we don't talk much. We "hang out" together, which mostly means we are in our separate rooms, doing our own separate creative activities and each allowing the other space to do so. We have a lovely time together apart. But we don't tend to talk.

Last night, however, coming back from an Easter weekend at the coast, with just her and me and the guinea-pigs in the car, while Daddy and number one came on later with the trailer full of boats, we did talk.

She started by telling me about the detention she got (for not paying attention in class). She enjoyed it. "You have to sit in the English classroom so you're inside in the warm with no beef and banter (gossip and bitchiness) to deal with. And you can't look at anyone and you just sit there in silence for half an hour. It's lovely. I just go into a world inside my head. I wish I could have detention every day, but without having to get into trouble."

She paused. "Mummy, when you were my age, did you have worlds inside your head?"

Well, of course I did. Many creative people do. In my favourite world, I was a flying princess with lots of horses. I still have worlds inside my head, but now I write books about them. I still have the horses, though.

Our imaginary worlds are far more than daydreams. Our worlds are fully developed. They have their own immutable laws; they are populated and, while nominally under our control, they develop lives of their own.

I do not think these worlds are the property of writers only, but they are not given to everyone. If you have one (or many), please treasure it, spend time in it and tend to it.

The "real" world demands our attention of course: our bodies require housing and feeding; our relationships with "real" people require maintenance; but the worlds inside our heads are essential to our mental health. They are our solace and our escape.

And who is to say which is the real world and which imaginary?

Mary
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Tuesday, 18 April 2017

Harry - Thank you!

I think we need to give some attention to this.

Prince Harry decided to give an insight into his past problems dealing with the death of his mother, in the hope it will encourage people to break the stigma surrounding mental health issues.

He did a great interview with Bryony Gordon who has suffered with bulimia and OCD. You may have seen it but if not: https://bryonysmadworld.telegraph.co.uk/e/mad-world-prince-harry/

It's brilliant he has talked about his issues because it's just elevated mental health problems by a million miles!

I do wish we had a royal advocate to bring some attention to the good Moodscope has done over the last 10 years, but we don't. So we must support everyone who does bring mental health problems to the fore.

Bryony Gordon is running the Virgin London Marathon run in aid of the Heads Together campaign - spearheaded by Prince William, The Duchess of Cambridge and Prince Harry.

Perhaps you could sponsor her: uk.virginmoneygiving.com/BryonyGordon

Thank you.

In the meantime, I'd be really interested in what you thought of Harry's interview?.

Caroline
The Moodscope Team

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Monday, 17 April 2017

Who's your hero?

The cult of celebrity is alive and well. Do you admire the skills and strengths of anyone in particular? I'm not sure that the rich and famous are all that different to me and you - the living creature that I have found most inspiring in the last decade or so is Bob, Bob the goldfish.

When I first moved in with my ex, Bob was already there - almost invisible in the pea-soup water of his spherical goldfish bowl. Years and years we had Bob. It was his stoicism I really admired. No matter what, he would carry on, through opaque water or through clear.  Never giving up - he truly was an inspiration!

Celebrities - pah! Sure, they have talents (don't we all?) I'm sure they work hard (don't we all?) They have got lucky, been recognised and praised for their talents. Good for them.

The people I really admire are those battling on when the odds are stacked against them.

There was an addict on the television the other day, not yet fully recovered, still having to battle every single day, now HIM I do admire. And then there's US, all the people that log on to Moodscope to measure our state of mind or read/comment on the blogs and support each other. I admire US, the unseen, unsung heroes.

Maybe we admire what we need the most? And I just need to keep going. My greatest achievement is that I am still here. I have nothing to show for myself but I am so proud of what I have achieved (still here!)

So who's your hero? If mine is Bob and all the unseen "ordinary" folk out there, who do YOU admire and why?  Is it because they display strengths and skills that YOU really need and would like (or have!)?

You may not have achieved fame and fortune, but I admire YOU for your tenacity, day after day.  Keep it up.  Well done!

Marmaladegirl
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Sunday, 16 April 2017

Hang On...

Why am I stuck inside when it's such a sunny day out?
Why do I draw the curtains to block out the light?

Light that is so vital to me, Light in all rays of glory.
If I block out Light do I block out Love? My essence is muted yet present.

Now is the time to stoke the embers. Now is the time to Love.
Now is the time to Love myself first. Love myself first?! Love the worst?!

I am unworthy. I have no hope. Darkness prevails. Blinds sight.
Menacing thoughts run amok heedlessly ignoring my pleas for order.

Circling the drain, I peer down the deep dark tunnel.
That tunnel will suck you right down. Away Forever.

Terror jolts my very core, shock waves ripple forth.
Tsunami barrels down on me. I need a life preserver! How will I survive?

Curl up, bracing for the blow. Curl inside, deep inside.
Not too far... not too far... don't go too far. Come up for air.

It's okay to talk. How can I talk? Remember to talk. I need to talk!
Struggling, stuttering, I must persevere. Must Persevere. What Must Persevere?!

Love. Intrinsic Love. Love is my answer. I must act out of Love.
Love protects me and I inflict no harm. No heartache. No gut wrenching agony as the finality sinks in.

The final demise that causes such grief. The tortuous loss you've experienced but you must never cause.

Such anguish must not be repeated. Absolutely never be repeated... You vowed you would never repeat it... NEVER.

Break the cycle. Be strong. Hang on.
Because of Love, I hang on.

What strengthens your grasp as you hang on?

Maria
A Moodscope member

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Saturday, 15 April 2017

It Will Pass.

When you're low everything seems to conspire to keep you there.

You know the fresh air will do you good but you'd rather stay under your duvet.

You know drinking water will help but you have a glass of wine or endless cups of tea and coffee.

You know you need some company but you can't bear the thought of socialising.

Going for a run might help but your legs feel like lead and are not going to budge.

You need to eat a healthy diet but it's easier to grab whatever is there from the fridge or cupboard, or not eat at all.

You know social media is bad for you but you trawl through everyone else's perfect lives.

You know you should distract yourself but you let the bad thoughts accumulate and fester.

You know some mindfulness or meditation, or simple deep breaths will calm you but you don't let yourself stop and try it.

You know you're not alone but your mind tells you no-one else wants to know you now.

You know you're ill and it's the illness keeping you in this place and it'll pass. This is the best bit of the knowing.

It will pass.

Lizzie
A Moodscope member.

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